Does getting married constructs you nervous? If the answer is yes, then there is no reason to worry about. We are here for you.
Your nervousness is genuine and quite common. Everybody wants to be happy throughout their lives, but this is not possible alone. You need to be with someone who sticks around in your every single ups and downs in life.
Successful marriages need not be something special, or grand. Small efforts or act of kindness will take this out into the next level.
It is hype that problems start after wedding. Work on your problems before wedding and things will get a lot easier and smoother later on. We have encapsulated five points about married life which you will find was most fun and interesting than dating.
1. Focus on small things
Life is a journey, and you travel carefree when you are alone. But, when you travel this tough road with person, you have to walk matching up the pace with that somebody special. You have to take care of each other on every up and down.
Along with this journey, every couple dreams of their own future, they prepare themselves to achieve the biggest thing in their life. However, in the pace of achieving the big ones, they end up dismissing the small things right in front of them.
Orient yourself in the right direction. If you are thinking of something to work out properly, induce your small efforts beforehand rather than correcting major courses when it is too late. Prioritize your needs and showcase your love and affection daily as a reminder that you both like each other.
Time to time small change will lead you to bigger changes.
Conflicts caused due to misunderstandings between couples often end up in the chambers of marriage therapists for consultation and counseling.
But a successful relationship works without a therapist.
This could be possible only if you care about how you talk with your partner rather than what you say and this is the main reason for existing conflicts. Peoples always focus on saying rather than listening and understanding.
If you want your relationship to be in a wave of peace, then first listen and understand to what your partner has to say. A few simple steps can actually result you to the track where harmony persists in relationships.
Listen what your partner is saying Think about why your partner has said that Try to figure it out what your partner has said why he or she feeling so What your partner is feeling? What does this feeling mean?
Once you learn this process and makes it a part of your daily regime, you will soon be able to dissolve your conflicts through solvable dialogues. This habit of yours will contribute towards creating a peaceful and prosperous marriage.
3. Work with small gestures of kindness
Couples which has now been dreaming of their big day and wish for a successful end to the grand gala, are nervous about their lives after marriage.
There is some good news for such couples and that is the whole journey will be easy and smooth going only if you have to make small daily endeavours. You have to follow the seven principles and the five secrets- it is that simple to remember.
You need not be far-reaching in your efforts, merely small kind gestures daily will do the job for you. There is no need for you to garbage money or make time out of your busy schedule. It is just an add-on to the small acts of kindness, only a simple thank you or a small surprise gift which will make all the difference.
Also, you can help your partner on their daily schedule or spend some quality time together. A simple, small gesture can make a lot of change, initiating the positive feedback cycle which will build trust, intimacy, religion, care and ultimately, happiness in between you and your partner.
4. Don’t get too late
Every human being likes to imagine what their future will be like and react upon it beforehand. Most couples dread post-marriage lives because of their present relationships. If you are one of them, then please stop dwelling in your hypothetical world and start living the present one.
If your pre-marriage life is rough, your post one will be happier in the long run. This is because each time you are solving and overcoming conflicts or impediments, you are building a procure home with a firm base.
If you love or care for your partner, then you should learn to adjust with them and their behaviors, but working on changing the rough behaviours at the same time. Where people care about each other, there will be some conflicts, but devote it a thought and work upon it before it gets too late.
5. Bring intimacy outside the bedroom
People need to be stable in their lives- stable mentally, physically emotionally, and economically. All these are connected to one another. Except for the economic one, all get controlled by certain hormonal impulse.
To experience stability in every aspect, “youre going to” put in enough endeavor and hard work, and such stability in life is possible through intimacy. We know sex is the ultimate sort of intimacy, but it is possible behind closed doors of your bedroom.
But, simply maintaining it inside will make “youre feeling” less connected with your partner. You should learn to carry your love outside your bedroom by trying simple intimacy tricks or displaying PDAs’ like kissing, hug, and get a massage from your partner.
The cuddling intimacy like kissing, hugging and a massage elevates the oxytocin level, which is an emotional stability hormone. Once, you are emotionally stable, you are highly likely to experience physical stability as well. The moment you attain stability from these two aspects, you will experience mental peace and harmony, i.e. mental stability too. A mentally stable person can easily focus on attaining economic stability too.
So intimacy is a key factor to keep you balanced in your life and makes your wedding successful also.
Read more: marriage.com